I have decided to do a post on the first week of each month meant at building a more personal connection with you, two or three wonderful people who read this blog. I will post a small picture of myself and chat a bit about nothing in particular -- how I'm feeling, what I'm dreaming, how is my hair, I don't know. I have realized on my blogging roadways that I enjoy the most those blogs where I can connect with the author on a more personal level. Maybe it is just me, I do not know. But I am suspecting there are more unfocused people just like me, who enjoy knowing the person behind the blog as a complex phenomenon of spirit, light, ideas, doings and makings. Each of us has a different comfort level when it comes to how much we reveal on the Internet, so this can be done in many ways. I like a certain amount of privacy and my closest friends can attest to that (why are those people still friends with me I will never understand). But then, somehow I am also not afraid of the Internet too much. It can feel at times more comfortable than the company of my closest people. A little weird, now that I think about it. But you know, it's like there are people who feel lonely walking on busy city streets, in a crowd of people; for me that is heaven. Now, the only thing I'm worried about is that posting your own pictures everywhere is a very narcissistic stance and I do not like to think of myself as narcissistic. If you know me a little, you realize that I would have to do a lot of work to get there, from my usual position of loathing my guts. I am posting the picture only as a way to establish a closer connection to you. So that our chat seems more like a coffee outing among friends, where how you look that day and what you're wearing are telling bits of the story.
So, hi. How have you been? It's good to see you. You look great. Me? Well, I am feeling hopeful this week, because they tell me it's spring. Isn't the tea here just out of this world?
~*L.*~
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It's funny, I posted a pic of myself on my blog today, which I almost never do (for the reasons you mentioned). It does seem narcissistic, but unless you're plastering gratuitous bathing suit shots all over the web, it's probably not :-)
~* Yeah. Great minds and all that ... So happy I'm not alone in this. It is a valid reason right? Now every other minute I decrease the size of that photo that stares at me from this page. But I still think it is not a horrible idea. And, OK, I'll take your advice and I'll force myself to keep the bathing suit pics all to myself (or the garbage can, as it may be).
You know that i'm surely going to visit you often lol!.
~* I know I can count on you, Col :)
Hi Lori,
I like seeing your photograph. Just remember, your photographs will be all over the internet in connection with your name and your blog! I'm doing okay this week, and I had every intention of staying off the internet more than on, but it hasn't proved to be that way. I'm searching for the balance between blogging, writing, everyday life, and quality time with my family. I had a great Toddler Story Time with 2 year olds this week, celebrating Dr. Seuss's Birthday. It pains me when you write about self loathing. My every impression of you is good, and I'm impressed by your writing, your thoughts, and your willingness to reflect; and I'm always happy when you come in to read me, and add a comment. I hope March is a great month for you.
~* You are always so kind and thoughtful, Annie. Somehow it does not scare me that my name and my face are there on the Internet. Is it weird? I don't care all that much. I don't know. I hope I don't live to regret it, but at this point I do not see any damage. Who knows me anyway? And why would anyone care? That's where I'm standing. As for self-loathing, don't worry. It's not that bad. I mean, it's bad, but I'm surviving it. I can usually remain balanced and not affected all that much. My daughter is also going crazy about the birthday of Dr. Seuss. Big event for them.
Did someone mention tea? Brought my own mug! This is a lovely idea.
I know what you mean about the safe distance of the internet being an easier place to reveal our inner self, and I like the street walking bit you mentioned (just realised I am making myself sound like a lady of ill repute...) you know what I mean at least!
Your picture is gorgeous, Lori - but even without it, we could see you are beautiful.
I'm always here, reading! :) I think the photo is really lovely :D It's nice being able to picture you as I read. I am such a narcissist. It never occurred to me that anyone wouldn't want to read about me. Oh dear!
~* You're so funny, Rachel!
Do you have your tea with milk. And what's your favorite tea? I'll make sure to stock up.
~* Oh, Wen, you are so giving and you have been going through so much with your family lately still keeping your sanity and all... you know what, you are entitled be narcissistic if you like.
I agree with your thoughts about this. We are out there anyway and if someone wants to find out things about us these days it's not too difficult. I like the personal connection with other bloggers.
I guess the only reason I don't have more recent photos of myself on my blog is that I don't get anyone to take them or if I do have them taken they just don't look good enough for me to feel like sharing. I do share plenty of information about myself on my blog. My life is an open book--or if you will an open blog.
Lee
Tossing It Out
I posted a silly photo of myself on my blog post of Friday, plus a "five things you may not know about me..." and then I kind of sweated a little wondering "am I being too personal?" *laugh* - but the reveals were pretty benign, still ... it's hard to put ourselves out there so much, but it's worth it to connect to others - especially since I'm pretty reclusive on this little mountain cove!
:-)
~* I think you're right, Lee. It is so easy to find personal information on the Internet these days. It's just common. Not all that scary anymore. At least not for me. As for the photos, I use the Photo Booth application of my mac and I can take the photos myself and choose the ones that look best (to me).
~* Hi, Kathryn. Unlike me, you are a real writer, published and all, and most writers out there have their faces on their books and in newspapers, right? Almost always, their location is also listed on the book cover. I like to check the writer's photo when I look at a book. I don't know what difference it makes, but I like to know who I'm talking with, you know? As for the five things thing... that is always so impressive to me, how you and other fascinating people out there have such interesting things to share. There is nothing remotely interesting that I could bring up for such a list. I like your post a lot.
Well, I am enjoying my cappuccino, thanks for asking. I like your hair like that. Mine needs a bit of trimming, getting into spring and all.
Love this idea, Lori! And I'm glad you posted a photo of you.
Hi Lori
I'm fine thankyou for asking! I totally understand what you mean when you speak of being perceived as narcissistic. I've only recently started posting pics of myself on my blog when I talk about my dressmaking and show what I've made. It's funny because I feel like the people I know in real life would think me vain, but I trust relative strangers in the blogosphere to understand my true motivations more. Does that mean that they know and understand me better than people I've known all my life? It's a strange dichotomy indeed!
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